I have a long-term devotional relationship with Dionysos, which has involved ecstatic experiences of various sorts, sometimes taking the form of visions or dreams. And last night I had a dream involving Him, the upshot of which was what I have heard termed “hieros gamos.” So basically: I don’t know what to do with this. I don’t want to make this dream important if it isn’t, but I don’t want to dismiss it if it does mean something. Help? Lovely blog btw, it makes me happy :)
I am very sorry that it has taken so long to get to this question. This is a very difficult topic. I haven’t been a follower of Dionysus long and am not a Hellenic Reconstructionist. However, I’ve been looking into the term as well as contemplating the question in terms of other rituals similar to it that I have read about in the past.
The ritual hieros gamos could very well be a marriage between divinity and a mortal or it could simply be representative of a marriage between two deities through human vessels. It is usually a ritual done in this physical plane.
I do think that it bares mentioning that Dionysus is not known for His chastity. So a dream of a sexual nature involving Him may not point to hieros gamos all on its own.
In the end, I don’t think I can give you any insight into what this means in regards to your relationship with Dionysus. In all honesty, that is something only He can answer for you.
I’m very sorry I couldn’t be of more help, anon. If there is anyone out there who knows more about the ritual of hieros gamos or is a more experienced devotee of Dionysus, please feel free to chime in.